In my 24 years of life, I have never built a gingerbread house. Well that all changed last night when my husband and I attempted to build one for the first time. We used this gingerbread house kit from Michaels: The kit comes with gumdrops, […]
I’m all about dark makeup so why wouldn’t I attempt a dark makeup look for Christmas? I decided to go with something icy because as of right now it’s cold where I live and I didn’t want to go with the cliche red and green. […]
It was only a couple of years ago that the idea of married life was nothing more than a dream. I spent my college years dating different guys, exploring my own interests, and becoming the adult I am today. When I thought about being married, it felt as if it was some elusive idea that may or may not happen. And it certainly wouldn’t happen “now.”
Well I’m 24 years old. I’m at the age where marriage is now. And that’s exactly what happened to me; I got married in January of this year.
I always wanted to get married; it’s a romantic, legal contract that says we’ll love each other forever. It is the ultimate commitment. But as mentioned above, I had no desire to get married in the near future. My last ex and I used to scoff at those who got married before 30. Who would do such a thing? Why give up your youth to be tied down to someone? My ex and I were together for a year and a half and while I did imagine us getting married, I definitely didn’t see it happening soon.
With my now husband, Adam, my whole world changed. We started dating January 1, 2016. A week was all it took for me to know that I had found the one. With my ex, marriage was “some day.” With Adam, I knew it was now.
We talked about getting married that first week of dating. But we both knew it was too soon.
We talked about getting married 4 months into dating, when he got out of boot camp, but we didn’t want to freak our families out.
So by the time we hit 8 months of dating, we knew we weren’t going to wait much longer. We brought it up to our families. We discussed all of the important parts of marriage: how we want to raise our kids, religion, money management, etc. We went to premarital counseling to ensure we were on the right path.
I’ve since been over the moon. I love being married to him.
But along with marriage have come things I didn’t even think about.
Christmas used to be my family’s thing, meaning, I didn’t have to worry about other people’s families. But now, I’m married and I’m learning quickly that all of these family traditions I used to have, my independence, is no longer applicable. In tow, is my amazing husband, and this year is a Christmas first for me (well, technically for us). I now have to consider his family, his traditions, while juggling my own family and their wants. No more, is it just my family I have to buy gifts for, but now it’s two families. Although, double the income definitely helps.
This is our first Christmas married and I’ve found that I enjoy taking on this matriarchal role in buying presents, wrapping gifts, and decorating the house. When I lived alone, I never did those things. Gifts were bought a few days before Christmas and I certainly didn’t wrap them. And I definitely didn’t have the money to buy silly decorations.
I used to think I didn’t want to get married for a while. I said that until I was 22 years old. Which is when I started dating Adam. This Christmas, I definitely have a new role to play, but I truly enjoy spending time figuring that out with my new husband.
What makes this Christmas special for you? Let me know in the comments below!
Happy Blogmas and I’ll see you guys on Thursday!
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You may have seen ads floating around from Rose Wholesale advertising their Christmas dresses. I saw one of them and excitedly told my husband that I really wanted this red dress in particular. He, being the awesome person he is, actually ordered it for me. […]
Are we noticing a trend yet here on Inbetween Thoughts? Gifts for moms, gifts for your pooch, and now gifts for him. We sure do love giving presents around here! Here’s a convenient list of some unique gift for that handsome man in your life. […]
Tis the season of giving! Which means we can’t leave our four legged friends behind! For the fifth day of Blogmas, here are some gift ideas for your fur babies.
Paw Print Ornament
This is a fun craft you and your dog can do while creating a memento of life with your dog. This ornament requires simple household ingredients, making it easy and accessible. Your dog will love spending time with you as you put together this ornament and may enjoy the mess as well!
Make Homemade Dog Biscuits
Your dogs love treats, so why not make them some yourself? You’ll know exactly what goes into the treats with the added benefit of making something out of love. These dog biscuits are made with everyday household items, so no need to pull out your wallet!
Peanut Butter Pupcakes with Peanut Butter Frosting
What kind of dog doesn’t love peanut butter? These pupcakes are a delectable Christmas treat for your pup.
Get a Stuffed Animal Clone of Your Dog
Who wouldn’t want a replica of their beloved pet? This is a great gift for your pets that love a cuddle buddy or in loving memory of a deceased pet. Be warned, this gift is pricey at a whopping $250.
DIY Dog Toy
Does your dog love toys? Then make him a personalized dog toy! Using a tennis ball and cloth, this DIY project is cheap and easy to make. Your dog is sure to appreciate the new toy added to his collection.
Do you have any other awesome dog gifts? Let me know in the comments below!
I’ll see you on Thursday!
My family and I love Christmas. My grandmother goes all out with unique Christmas traditions that are a hit by the whole family. Here are four of our Christmas traditions that are sure to be loved by anyone’s family. 1. Find Your Ornament on the […]
Olive skin can be somewhat of a challenge to match lipsticks to. With our yellow/golden undertones, it can clash with a lot of typical lipsticks. Here are some of my favorite lipsticks to wear that look great for olive skinned people. Kat Von D’s Lolita […]
Having been vegetarian/vegan for only two months now, this will be my official Thanksgiving as a vegan. To say the least, it’s very daunting. My family and in laws live in Texas, which we all know is BBQ country. Vegans and vegetarians alike are frowned upon there and I am extremely nervous about having to defend myself to family whom I know will harass me about my dietary preferences. So I’ve etched out a game plan in dealing with this meat eaters’ holiday.
Bring a Vegan Side Dish
This one is probably obvious especially if it’s traditional in your family for everyone to bring a Thanksgiving dish. So make yours vegan. There are plenty of hearty vegan dishes that everyone will love. Personally, I am bringing vegan macaroni and cheese using this recipe. You could bring mashed potatoes, green bean casserole, stuffing, just to name a few. Pinterest is loaded with vegan dish ideas, so spend some time surfing recipes there. Make sure to prepare a bunch of it, that way you can have a sizable portion in case none of the other dishes are vegan.
On that same note, you may want to pack a bunch of vegan easy-to-eat foods in case you’re spending more than just Thursday with the family. Having meals already made will make your life easier in figuring out what to eat.
Brace Yourself for the Inevitable Debates
I sincerely hope you don’t have someone in your family who will criticize you or try to prove your lifestyle wrong, but unfortunately, there is usually one. You need to make the decision before you go, on whether or not you want to engage in these debates. If so, then be prepared. Study up on common omni debate points and their rebuttals. Remember not to attack anyone and to provide the facts in a logical way. Will you convert them? Probably not, but if you are educated and can stump their criticisms, they might just leave you alone. Might.
If you choose not to engage in the debates (which is what I recommend), prepare a short sentence for if someone criticizes your lifestyle. It’s good to have for those who don’t or may not understand the lifestyle (like my uber religious in-laws). Something simple and to the point is all you need. “I’ve put a lot of research into veganism and have decided this lifestyle is right for me. If it’s not for you, that’s okay, but I’d like to keep dinner topics light-hearted and away from my lifestyle choices.”
Don’t Be Ashamed to Go Veggie/Omni During the Holiday
I may get a lot of flack for this from other vegans, but I truly believe you come first before the animals. If the holiday is stressing you out and you’re experiencing unnecessary anxiety over food, then don’t feel bad about eating veggie/omni for the holiday. You’re mental sanity is more important than the food that goes into your body for a few days. If you have family that you know will give you a hard time and you don’t want to deal with it, that’s fine. It doesn’t make you a lesser person. You are already doing so much good for the environment and for animal welfare 300+ days of the year. Don’t let one holiday take away from that fact.
With these three tips, you’ll be set for the holiday. Don’t engage in rude remarks pertaining to veganism, but do answer sincere questions. Remember that Thanksgiving is not your time to advocate for veganism. It’s too late to save any turkeys and you can easily sour the mood. So enjoy the time with your family and try not to worry too much about being vegan and what they think of you.
Happy Thanksgiving! I’ll see you next Wednesday!
Office wear doesn’t have to be boring! (Thank God!) So why not spice up your office wardrobe with some super cute shoes? The right pair of shoes can drastically change the look of an outfit, making it easier to repeat outfits without getting bored with […]