Today is Valentine’s Day and for those of you looking to splurge on either your significant other or yourself, here’s a list of my favorite restaurants local to Wichita. Wine Dive When I first found this place online, I was expecting a much fancier store […]
Valentine’s is a week away, but we can’t forget about our gal pals! February 13th is Galentine’s Day, so gather round your girlfriends and spoil each other with one or two (or all!) of the following Galenine’s Day ideas. 1. Take a class together. […]
I’m sure you’re familiar with the cheesy, inspirational posters teachers keep hanging on their walls. When I was in high school, they normally, they meant nothing to me and I gave them very little thought. But I was around 15 years old when I saw this one particular poster with a quote on it. It was an image of a road reaching out toward the horizon and a man walking down the road. (Memory may be a bit fuzzy here.) On it were the words, “No matter how far you’ve gone down the wrong road, you can always turn back.”
For some reason, this quote resonated with me. It resonated so much that I told my mom about the quote, which opening up to her about what I liked and my feelings at that age was something I didn’t often do.
The reason I love this quote so much, is that it can be applied to anything in life:
- When you’re in a long term relationship with someone who’s not right for you.
- Deciding whether or not to switch majors in college even though you’re close to graduating.
- Hanging out with the wrong kind of friends.
- Behaviors you have that you don’t think you can change.
- And so many more!
We have a tendency to feel like we have to see things through, even if we don’t want to. In the first example, many men and women will stay with someone who doesn’t make them happy simply because they’ve invested so much time with them. They think that it’s not worth it to leave, that if they try hard enough, they can be happy.
In the second example, sometimes we invest so much time in a degree only to find out that it’s not what we expected or what we want anymore. But we don’t want to change majors due to how much time would be lost.
This is called sunk cost fallacy. Originally dealing with economics, this fallacy now applies to any situation in which you’ve invested time, money, effort, and/or emotions into that is clearly wrong for you, making it hard to abandon. Many men/women stick with abusive relationships because they rationalize that all that effort and time spent with their abuser is now wasted if they leave.This is where that quote comes in. Remind yourself that no matter how far you’ve gone with this person/job/whatever that it’s okay to stop and turn around.
It works for habits too.
“I’m overweight and will always be overweight so I’ll go ahead and help myself to unhealthy food.” Or: “I’m on a diet, but I already messed up during my lunch by eating several cookies, so screw it, today’s a cheat day.”
NO MATTER HOW FAR YOU GO DOWN THE WRONG ROAD YOU CAN ALWAYS TURN BACK!
Just because you messed up once or twice or your whole life does not mean it has to dictate what you do now. This works for small habits like nail biting and overeating to more serious habits like substance abuse.
Don’t give in to these notions in order to justify actions, relationships, or any other investments. Remember, that it’s not too late to start over. Sure you’re a bit older, but that also means you’re a bit wiser. And turning around from that wrong road may make a world of difference in your happiness.
What are your favorite quotes? Let me know in the comments!
I’ll see you guys next Wednesday!
Valentine’s is right around the corner, so grab your significant other (or boast proudly that you’re single and ready to mingle!) and your makeup palettes for some gorgeous Valentine’s makeup looks you’ll have to try. Glitter Glitter is fun and flirty! Dress up not only […]
I’ve recently gotten into planning in order to help me reach my goals. I’ve seen floating around bullet journals and find the idea behind them intriguing. While I’m not much of an artist, I’ve compiled a few bullet journal suggestions to help bullet journal newbies […]
With the new year come new ideas. Here is a list of blog post ideas for lifestyle bloggers.
1. Tell the story behind your favorite picture that you took.
2. Show us your every day life through a series of pictures. No words allowed!
3. Cook a dish you’ve never made before (the harder it is to make, the better!) and document how it goes.
4. List your top 5 favorite books and why.
5. Do something out of your comfort zone and document what happens.
6. Tell the story you’ve always wanted to tell, but have been too afraid to.
7. Tell us what inspires you.
8. Write about your lowest point in life and compare it to your highest point.
9. What are you guilty habits?
10. Buy a product you wouldn’t normally use and give your opinion.
11. Make a list post of anything you desire.
12. Show your morning routine.
13. What motivates you to get out of bed in the morning?
14. Do a house tour.
15. Top 5 favorite places to be and why.
16. Your favorite kind of jewelry and what you pair it with.
17. Your dream date.
18. Your dream proposal.
19. The outfit that makes you feel confident compared to the outfit that you feel most comfortable in.
20. Make a cocktail you’ve never made before (if you’re legal!) and tell us how it goes.
21. What could you give a presentation on without any preparation? Write about it.
22. Document your dreams and interpret them.
23. Share your most embarrassing moment.
24. Share your favorite beauty products.
25. Tell us where you shop for clothes.
26. Do a social experiment and document it.
27. Tell a story using only pictures.
28. Show us what you collect.
29. Top 5 places you want to travel to.
30. What is something you never thought you’d do, but did? Tell us that story.
31. What are you blogging tips?
32. Who are you favorite instagrammers/bloggers/etc.
33. What makes you interesting?
34. Show us your hobby.
35. Make a nostalgia playlist from your childhood/preteen/teenage years.
36. Review a bad movie.
37. Create a color palette of your favorite colors using the world around you.
38. Share something cringe-y you’ve done (A bad poem, an awful hairstyle, etc.) and laugh about it.
39. Favorite nail polish colors.
40. How do you pick out clothes while shopping?
41. What do you miss about being a kid? Compare that to being an adult.
42. What do you think the meaning of life is?
43. Share your best blog posts and why you think they were successful.
44. Write about the goals you have for yourself and how you plan to achieve them.
45. Document your every day life through your pet’s point of view.
46. Narrate your pet’s day.
47. Give your opinion on a controversial subject.
48. Share your blogging routine.
49. Share your evening routine.
50. Start a challenge (fitness, creative, etc.) and document your progress through the month.
51. Share your favorite quotes.
52. Write about a mistake you made that you wouldn’t take back if you could.
53. What’s the most important thing you’ve learned in life so far?
54. How do you save money? What are you saving for, besides an emergency fund?
55. Share your go to recipe.
56. Invent something new.
57. Share social media tips.
58. Why did you start blogging?
59. Share your favorite resources for your hobby.
60. Share your opinion/thoughts on an article you’ve read.
61. Makeover something (your hair, house, a friend) and show us how it turned out.
62. Write an open letter to someone.
63. Find an instagrammer/blogger you like and interview them.
64. Share a short story/poem.
65. Create a list post of lifestyle blog topics.
I hope this list inspires you! Make sure to share your blog posts in the comments below if you choose to write about one of these; I’d love to read them!
I’ll see you next Wednesday!
With the new year comes our inevitable new year’s resolutions should they be small, large, or straying from the norm. This year mine are to save more money, launch my personal blog, and write more in general. The problem with new year’s resolutions, in my […]
We are less than 24 hours away from 2018 and I’m sure we all have some ideas of the New Year’s resolutions we want to keep. I’m all for the cliche resolutions like exercising more, eating healthier, saving more money, but those are resolutions almost […]
Ever since I moved away from my friends and family thanks to the good, old military, I have been having a hard time adjusting. I started feeling down seeing my friends hang out with each other while I was far away in a state where I knew no one. My job became repetitive and boring. I felt unneeded, like I wasn’t leaving any kind of imprint on the world.
And I missed my mom.
One day, a whirlwind of these negative thoughts got the better of me and so I asked myself, what makes me happy right now? I jotted down a short list:
My husband, my dog, my family and friends, cooking dinner with my husband. And that’s where the list ends. I was appalled to realize that I couldn’t think of anything else. Certainly my life isn’t that miserable?
So I decided to start a happy things journal. Every day I write down one thing that makes me happy and why it does. These things can be small and meaningful only to me, like notebooks, or larger ideas/memories, like travelling. Forcing myself to write down something every day has me coming up with creative things and looking for happiness in the smallest of places. It makes me feel better to see my notebook filled with pages of happy things. They’re a nice reminder of those small lights of joy we sometimes overlook.
So how do you start a happy things journal?
It’s simple. Step one: obtain a notebook (preferably one that makes you happy). Step two: write in it every day.
It doesn’t need to take a long time to write in the notebook. Just take 15-30 minutes of your day to write about one thing that brings you joy. And when you’re having those bad days, pull out your notebook and read about your happy things.
Doing this is great for the mental health. When we get swarmed with negative thoughts, it can impede our ability to see the good things around us every day. Journaling has definitely helped keep my head in the right place and I highly recommend it to anyone.
I’ll see you on Sunday!
With Christmas being one painstaking day away, sometimes we need a little something to relieve the pre-Christmas jitters. Here are a few Christmas Eve traditions to help pass the time. Open one present (just one!) After seeing all those beautifully wrapped presents under the tree, […]