My Christmas First: What Makes This Christmas Special For Me
It was only a couple of years ago that the idea of married life was nothing more than a dream. I spent my college years dating different guys, exploring my own interests, and becoming the adult I am today. When I thought about being married, it felt as if it was some elusive idea that may or may not happen. And it certainly wouldn’t happen “now.”
Well I’m 24 years old. I’m at the age where marriage is now. And that’s exactly what happened to me; I got married in January of this year.
I always wanted to get married; it’s a romantic, legal contract that says we’ll love each other forever. It is the ultimate commitment. But as mentioned above, I had no desire to get married in the near future. My last ex and I used to scoff at those who got married before 30. Who would do such a thing? Why give up your youth to be tied down to someone? My ex and I were together for a year and a half and while I did imagine us getting married, I definitely didn’t see it happening soon.
With my now husband, Adam, my whole world changed. We started dating January 1, 2016. A week was all it took for me to know that I had found the one. With my ex, marriage was “some day.” With Adam, I knew it was now.
We talked about getting married that first week of dating. But we both knew it was too soon.
We talked about getting married 4 months into dating, when he got out of boot camp, but we didn’t want to freak our families out.
So by the time we hit 8 months of dating, we knew we weren’t going to wait much longer. We brought it up to our families. We discussed all of the important parts of marriage: how we want to raise our kids, religion, money management, etc. We went to premarital counseling to ensure we were on the right path.
I’ve since been over the moon. I love being married to him.
But along with marriage have come things I didn’t even think about.
Christmas used to be my family’s thing, meaning, I didn’t have to worry about other people’s families. But now, I’m married and I’m learning quickly that all of these family traditions I used to have, my independence, is no longer applicable. In tow, is my amazing husband, and this year is a Christmas first for me (well, technically for us). I now have to consider his family, his traditions, while juggling my own family and their wants. No more, is it just my family I have to buy gifts for, but now it’s two families. Although, double the income definitely helps.
This is our first Christmas married and I’ve found that I enjoy taking on this matriarchal role in buying presents, wrapping gifts, and decorating the house. When I lived alone, I never did those things. Gifts were bought a few days before Christmas and I certainly didn’t wrap them. And I definitely didn’t have the money to buy silly decorations.
I used to think I didn’t want to get married for a while. I said that until I was 22 years old. Which is when I started dating Adam. This Christmas, I definitely have a new role to play, but I truly enjoy spending time figuring that out with my new husband.
What makes this Christmas special for you? Let me know in the comments below!
Happy Blogmas and I’ll see you guys on Thursday!
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